Marriage is a relationship
Marriage
is an eternal concept. It is meant to be a loving, intimate, selfless
relationship between a man and a woman that lasts through eternity.
A relationship of love
The
Bible teaches, “Husbands, love your wives” (Ephesians 5:25) and “teach the
young women … to love their husbands” (Titus 2:4). Love in marriage can be
deeper and more selfless than in any other relationship. It is this type of
love that Jesus expects of His followers, and it is the virtue that couples
need the most.
A relationship of intimacy
Marriage
involves spiritual, emotional, and physical closeness. In the Old Testament, we
are taught, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall
cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). Married
couples are meant to be unified in every possible way.
Sexual
intimacy is an expression of love that brings happiness and unity into a
marriage. It is also the power by which married couples can “multiply, and
replenish the earth” (Genesis 1:28). Intimacy is a blessing that can lead to
the incomparable joy of children as part of the eternal family unit.
A relationship of selflessness
The
Savior taught, “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his
life for his friends” (John 15:13). Couples can learn a powerful lesson from
this teaching. As a spouse, you are expected to essentially lay down your old
life and to sacrifice many of your personal desires for your closest
friend—your husband or wife. The more you are able to put your spouse first and
keep your focus on the success of your partnership, the stronger your marriage
will be.
Marriage is a commitment
Most
marriages are founded on love—but it’s choosing to maintain and grow that love
that can be the challenge. That’s where commitment comes in. God considers
marriage to be an agreement between a husband and a wife as well as a
commitment between the couple and Him. He expects us to dedicate ourselves to
the relationship, and to recognize our responsibilities, duties, and loyalties
both to our spouse and to God. The scriptures can teach us how to do that.
Be patient
Marriage
can require hard work. But remembering that it’s founded on love gives us
direction. “Above all things have fervent charity among yourselves,” counsels
Peter in the New Testament, “for charity shall cover the multitude of sins” (1
Peter 4:8). You’ll make mistakes. Your spouse will, too. Be patient and
considerate of each other. Take on the hard times in your partnership “with
longsuffering, forbearing one another in love; endeavoring to keep the unity of
the Spirit in the bond of peace” (Ephesians 4:2–3).
Be joyful
It
isn’t your spouse’s job to make you happy all the time. Both of you need to
work to cultivate happiness in your marriage. So take time to talk, to laugh,
to have fun. “Rejoice with the wife [or husband] of thy youth” (Proverbs 5:18)
and “live joyfully with the [spouse] whom thou lovest all the days of [thy]
life” (Ecclesiastes 9:9).
Be kind
Being
married means you’ll see every side of your spouse: the good, the bad, the
strengths, the flaws. Help build your partner’s confidence. Give strength to
his or her weaknesses. Give compliments instead of criticism. “Be ye kind one
to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake
hath forgiven you” (Ephesians 4:32).
Marriage is ordained of God
God
instituted the husband-wife relationship as an equal partnership with Adam and
Eve (see Genesis 2:24). Marriage is central to God’s plan for our happiness
during this life and our eternal happiness in the life hereafter.
Marriage is essential to God’s
plan
Your
life here on earth has a purpose. You are here as part of God’s plan. Before
any of us were born, we existed in heaven as spirits. God created this earth so
that we could have an opportunity to have physical bodies and to learn and
grow. When we get married, we are given the sacred opportunity to bring
children into this world, and we take on the solemn responsibility to care for
them. Because God loves His children, He wants each one of us to receive love,
support, and care. This happens best through an honest and devoted marriage.
How does the Church view divorce?
The
Church believes that God, the author of marriage, established it as a permanent
union. When two people marry, they form an unbreakable bond. Jesus himself
taught that marriage is permanent (Matthew 19:3-6), and St. Paul reinforced
this teaching (see 1 Cor 7:10-11 and Eph 5:31-32). The Church does not
recognize a civil divorce because the State cannot dissolve what is
indissoluble
For a
marriage to be valid, it is required that: (1) the spouses are free to marry;
(2) they are capable of giving their consent to marry; (3) they freely exchange
their consent; (4) in consenting to marry, they have the intention to marry for
life, to be faithful to one another, and be open to children; (5) they intend
the good of each other; and (6) their consent is given in the presence of two
witnesses and before a properly authorized Church minister. Exceptions to the
last requirement must be approved by Church authority.
Marriage can exist only between a
man and a woman?
Marriage,
as both a natural institution and a sacred union, is rooted in God’s plan for
creation. The truth that marriage can only exist between a man and a woman is
woven deeply into the human spirit. The Church’s teaching on marriage expresses
a truth, therefore, that can be perceived first and foremost by human reason.
This truth has been confirmed by divine Revelation in Sacred Scripture.
Why can marriage exist only
between a man and a woman?
The
natural structure of human sexuality makes man and woman complementary partners
for expressing conjugal love and transmitting human life. Only a union of male
and female can express the sexual complementarily willed by God for marriage.
This unique complementarily makes possible the conjugal bond that is the core
of marriage.
Why is a same-sex union not
equivalent to a marriage?
A
same-sex union contradicts the nature and purposes of marriage. It is not based
on the natural complementarily of male and female. It cannot achieve the
natural purpose of sexual union, that is, to cooperate with God to create new
life. Because persons in a same-sex union cannot enter into a true conjugal
union, it is wrong to equate their relationship to a marriage.
What unique contributions does
marriage between a man and woman make to society?
Marriage
is the fundamental pattern for male-female relationships. It contributes to
society because it models the way in which women and men live interdependently
and commit to seek the good of each other. The marital union also provides the
best conditions for raising children: namely, the stable, loving relationship
of a mother and father present only in marriage. The state recognizes this
relationship as a public institution in its laws because the relationship makes
a unique and essential contribution to the common good.
MARRIAGE RULES TO BE OBSERVED
1. Remember that God joined you
together in marriage.
“For
this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife.
… So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined
together, let not man separate” (Matthew 19:5, 6).
2. Guard your thoughts.
“As
he thinks in his heart, so is he” (Proverbs 23:7).
“You
shall not covet your neighbor’s wife” (Exodus 20:17).
“Keep
your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life”
(Proverbs 4:23).
“Whatever
things are true … noble … just … pure … lovely … of good report … meditate on
these things” (Philippians 4:8).
3. Never go to bed angry with one
another.
“Do
not let the sun go down on your wrath” (Ephesians 4:26). “Confess your
trespasses to one another” (James 5:16). “Forgetting those things which are
behind” (Philippians 3:13).“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving
one another, even as God in Christ forgave you” (Ephesians 4:32)
4. Keep Christ in the center of
your home.
“Unless
the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it” (Psalm 127:1). “In
all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths” (Proverbs
3:6).“And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your
hearts and minds through Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:7).
5.Pray together.
“Watch
and pray, lest you enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the
flesh is weak” (Matthew 26:41). “Pray for one another” (James 5:16). “If any of
you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally” (James 1:5).
6. Agree that divorce is not the
answer.
“What
God has joined together, let not man separate” (Matthew 19:6).
“Whoever
divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits
adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery” (Matthew
19:9). “The woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as long
as he lives” (Romans 7:2).
7. Keep the family circle closed
tightly.
“You
shall not commit adultery” (Exodus 20:14). “The heart of her husband safely
trusts her. … She does him good and not evil all the days of her life”
(Proverbs 31:11, 12). “The Lord has been witness between you and the wife of
your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously” (Malachi 2:14). “Keep you
from the evil woman. … Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, nor let her
allure you with her eyelids. Can a man take fire to his bosom, and his clothes
not be burned? … So is he who goes in to his neighbor’s wife; whoever touches
her shall not be innocent” (Proverbs 6:24, 25, 27, 29).
8.God describes love; make it
your daily goal to measure up.
“Love
suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is
not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked,
thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears
all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” (1
Corinthians 13:4–7).
9. Remember that criticism and
nagging destroy love.
“Husbands,
love your wives and do not be bitter toward them” (Colossians 3:19). “Better to
dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and angry woman” (Proverbs
21:19). “A continual dripping on a very rainy day and a contentious woman are
alike” (Proverbs 27:15).
“Why
do you look at the speck [splinter] in your brother’s eye, but do not consider
the plank [whole board] in your own eye?” (Matthew 7:3).
“Love
suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself” (1
Corinthians 13:4).
10. Do not overdo in anything; be
temperate.
“Everyone
who competes for the prize is temperate in all things” (1 Corinthians 9:25).
“Love … does not seek its own [selfish advantage]” (1 Corinthians 13:4, 5).
“Whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God” (1
Corinthians 10:31). “I discipline my body and bring it into subjection” (1
Corinthians 9:27).
“If
anyone will not work, neither shall he eat” (2 Thessalonians 3:10).
“Marriage
is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled” (Hebrews 13:4). “Do not let sin
reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in its lusts, and do not
present your members as instruments of unrighteousness to sin” (Romans 6:12,
13).
11.Respect each other's personal
rights and privacies.
“
Love suffers long and is kind; … Love does not envy … does not behave rudely,
does not seek its own [in selfishness] … does not rejoice in iniquity …
believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” (1 Corinthians
13:4–7). “Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor
giving preference to one another” (Romans 12:10).
12. Be clean, modest, orderly,
and dutiful.
“In
like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel” (1 Timothy
2:9). “She … willingly works with her hands. … She also rises while it is yet
night, and provides food for her household. … She watches over the ways of her
household, and does not eat the bread of idleness” (Proverbs 31:13, 15, 27).
“Be clean” (Isaiah 52:11).
“Let
all things be done decently and in order” (1 Corinthians 14:40).
“If
anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household,
he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever” (1 Timothy 5:8). “Do
not become sluggish [lazy]” (Hebrews 6:12).
13. Determine to speak softly and
kindly.
“A
soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (Proverbs 15:1).
“Live joyfully with the wife whom you love” (Ecclesiastes 9:9). “When I became
a man, I put away childish things” (1 Corinthians 13:11).
14. Be reasonable in money
matters.
“Love
does not envy [is not possessive] … does not behave rudely, does not seek its
own [selfish advantage]” (1 Corinthians 13:4, 5).
“God
loves a cheerful giver” (2 Corinthians 9:7).
15. Talk things over freely with
one another.
“Love
suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is
not puffed up” (1 Corinthians 13:4).
“He
who disdains instruction despises his own soul” (Proverbs 15:32).
“Do
you see a man wise in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him”
(Proverbs 26:12).
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